Hear Ye, Hear Ye! It is my pleasure to announce my exuberant guest author, Valerie Beth Gilbert!
Taylor Jones says: Valerie writes in a way that you almost feel you are there, walking beside her in her journey. She is a profound writer with heart and soul. Raving Violet is a book you just won't want to put down. I loved reading this book. I'm giving it 4.5 stars
Regan Murphy says: What a delightful book! Raving Violet is a great read. It's witty, warm, moving, uplifting, and just downright fun. It's also intelligently written and thought-provoking. I'm giving Raving Violet 4.6 stars.
Firstly,
how are you surviving the weather in NYC between hurricane sandy and now this
blizzard?
And
what was the most heroic scene or instance you've experienced through it all?
Brrr…! Well, you caught
me! I am wearing tights, socks, pants,
slippers, hat, scarf, shirt, sweater, a CAPE and gloves (with fingers cut off
so I can type). Does that give you a
good idea how cold it is in my apartment?
And that’s with the heat
on! I’m afraid my apartment closely
resembles a meat locker in winter.
Perhaps it is why I am so “well preserved”.
I get a little stir crazy when I can’t get outside, so often I
resort to walking up the ten flights to my apartment. It gives me a little workout. I took my dog out briefly yesterday but she
was shivering within minutes, even with her little coat on. So, we abandoned the “outing” idea. Honestly, growing up in New York City, as I
did, it was a hell of a lot worse. We
had blizzards all the time. When we had
snow days at school it’s because snow literally shut the city down. There were
piles and piles and feet and feet of snow. People freak out now when there’s an inch or
two of snow. They’re such sissies.
However, it is decidedly warmer (except in my apartment) than it
was decades ago. Global warming is a
very real phenomenon. I do not believe
that man has caused it. I understand it is a natural pattern in the Earth’s
cycles. We’re ultimately heading toward another
ice age (in thousands of years) But this is what happens first. The planet warms up. Now, is our crappy pollution and abuse of the
planet exacerbating the greenhouse effect?
Yes, it is. So if people want to
believe that we’re the cause of global warming, that’s fine with me, because we
need to fix our selfish, stupid, toxic practices, and fast. Clean, free energy is a very real
possibility. It exists already. Visionary genius/scientist Nikola Tesla
figured it out 100 years ago. We need to
stand up to the oil companies and corporations supporting the status quo (i.e.
their continued greed at all environmental and human costs) and insist on
clean, humane, commercial, corporate, and personal standards so that we can
clean up this toxic mess we’re swimming in.
Since I’m on my soap box, I’d like to add that for both
spiritual and scientific reasons, I believe coastal areas the world over are at
risk. The weather patterns are becoming
more erratic. Hurricane Sandy and this recent
blizzard are but tiny whispers of what may come because of rising water levels
and warming temperatures. I can only
repeat what I heard, move 200 feet above sea level, and get away from coastal
areas. If you’re in an area that was
recently flooded, it is prudent to relocate, not rebuild. I read that 50 years from now New York City
is going to be abandoned. The flooding
will continue, and people will get tired of recovering and rebuilding every
year. Personally, I want off the island
(of Manhattan) Get me some paddles!
Regarding heroic scenes, I haven’t seen any. However, I endeavor on a daily basis to be a
good neighbor, a kind person, conscious, aware and compassionate. So that when I walk down the street I try to
engage people lovingly, whether it be a gentle smile, or simply acknowledging
the service people who work in my neighborhood whom many people ignore outright
since they’re just, “the help”. They are
our brothers and sisters. If we all
endeavored to be kinder, gentler, softer, slower, more patient and loving, we
wouldn’t need as many heroic acts. I
think being kind, loving and compassionate on a daily basis is an act of heroism. It will always remain unsung. To be kind, gentle, aware and helpful is one
of the most powerful gifts we all have to give.
Talk about melting ice! That’s a
global warming we all dearly need. One
of the Heart.
I’ve
read Debbie Christiana and Nana Prah's guest author interviews and I found a
great confidence of personality in Valerie Beth Gilbert, what, if anything,
makes you tentative or doubtful?
Ah, the Achilles Heel!
You’re here to “find me out”. Actually,
I do write about my vulnerability, my pain, my fears. They have been very real in this lifetime, as
they are for most humans. Especially
when we live in a world where fear and insecurity have been specifically
inculcated by our media, governments, drug companies and churches to keep us
small, fearful, insecure, unbalanced and needy.
I do believe there’s a dark conspiracy element to this, however, on a
daily basis, it’s our job to fight those fears and slay the dragons. We are bigger than they are. Have you heard
the acronym for fear: False Events
Appear Real? Well, I heard another great
acronym from Neal Donald Walsch, author of one of my favorite books, “Conversations
with God”, Feeling Excited And Ready (he said it in the movie INFINITY: The
Ultimate Trip, about life after death, which I highly recommend.) It is through the power of our mind, will,
and understanding that we transform fear into a wisp of smoke. We are powerful! It is so important to learn, remember,
contemplate, and broadcast that. It’s
not how most people think. And, by the
way, inflated egos or narcissistic people are not in their power. True
self-confidence has an unbeatable peace, beauty and benevolent strength to it. Confidence simply means, “with faith”.
So, let’s deal with my foibles…let’s say I get jealous. There’s something I want, which I feel I
should have and even that I will
have, but somehow, I still, “don’t have”.
I could question myself, “Maybe
I’ll never have it! How come they have it? Why don’t I
have it? What am I doing wrong that I don’t have it? What do I have to do to have it?” It really doesn’t matter what “it” is, does it? The implication here, ultimately, is that
there is something wrong with me and what I’m doing (or not doing) to produce
the unwanted results. It’s a
condemnation or judgment against myself.
And that’s why I feel bad. All
because of the beliefs I’m choosing to hold about myself. These are beliefs, not facts. Remember that distinction.
The way I combat the blues, the screaming mimis, insecurity,
anxiety or doubt (whatever you want to call it, it’s all discomfort, being out
of sync with the self) is to acknowledge the energy of it, even if I’m not sure
why it’s there or what it is. And then I take action. The action could be crying. It could be napping (sometimes sleep just
washes the “uck” off me) I might journal.
I might color in one of my many coloring books (a very zen hobby for me,
in fact, any hobby can be a zen, centering experience if you approach it with
the right focus and attitude.) I might
go out and take a walk. Or walk up ten
flights to burn off energy.
Let’s take yesterday, for example (specificity is SO important
in understanding ourselves). I slept
well. I’d been out late the night before
to see a play. A friend had cancelled
coming in to see me from New Jersey because of the snow. So I had no social engagements. Which is often the case for me. And I live alone. So I’ve had to figure out how to make being
alone work for me for many years.
I had ants in my pants.
The sun came out, but where was I going to go? I didn’t want to shop. Shopping is a default hobby for far too many
people, it contributes to our debt, depression, and landfill problems. It’s a really quick “fix” with lots of associated
liabilities. So, I prayed. I am big on spirituality, so I prayed, “Please
help me have a good, happy and productive day.
Cause I’m feeling restless!” A
friend called from England and I enjoyed a nice chat with her. I was already feeling better.
I then chose a very small activity, walking two blocks in
opposite directions to check out semi-permanent “natural” hairdyes. I’m bored with my current routine and am
contemplating a violet rinse so I can coordinate with my new book, RAVING VIOLET. I walked to my local health food store, and
my local Whole Foods supermarket. I purchased
nothing. But I got a modicum of fresh
air and sunshine. As I walked around, I
endeavored to slow down (a behavior not usually seen in Manhattan) and to
literally stroll, so that I could
really take in the people around me, look at them, and smile. I chose to feel and radiate peace, even
though most of ‘em were too busy racing around with wrinkles on their brow to
notice me in my pink parka and rose-covered snow boots.
I topped this riveting routine off with the purchase of several
cans of sale tuna for my sick cat, who relishes this treat, then walked the ten
flights upstairs so I could burn off some of my nervous energy. At this point it was already gone, but I
could still use the exercise.
My healing for the day was complete. I got through my earlier anxiety handicap
with the smallest of remedial measures. Not one pill was popped. (I never do)
I take one hour at a time. One
minute at a time.
Another great anxiety fixer is to clean your frickin’
house. Sometimes I’ll feel overwhelmed
by things, papers, in particular. I keep
so many scraps of paper, notes, recipes, and ideas. In the long run, being surrounded by these
piles of pulp, no matter how “important,” they seem, just drags me down. So, I took action, and cleared the mess. And don’t forget vacuuming and straightening
up! Sometimes we feel overwhelmed
because things are out of
control. Decisive action is required to
bring things back into balance. The
Salvation Army is picking up five bags of “stuff” from me this week. Clean and clear, kids!
Bottom line, we all have shit that gets us down. I’m happier than I’ve ever been because every
step of the way I’ve looked at my shadow.
I’ve owned my anxiety, fear, depression, sadness and anger. And I’ve steadily built a new empire of Yes
Valerie, Empowered Valerie, Beautiful Valerie.
She now stands where Depressed, Sad, Insecure Valerie once lurked. They can’t both inhabit the same spot. As you move toward your wants, your fears and
insecurities melt away in the face of your true power. But this power must always be realized
through action. You can’t think it into reality. You’ve got to put your money where your mouth
is.
You’ve
mentioned, “I never wanted to be a writer,” now that you’re a published author,
are you happy and content with this new path? And will you continue paving a
series of books?
I am so thrilled, happy and grateful to be a writer. It is an amazing accomplishment to have a
product that I am proud of. I recently
celebrated a landmark birthday. For
several centuries now, I’ve wanted to be happily married with a family in a
beautiful home “somewhere not New York.” That dream has yet eluded me, though I
keep hoping it will manifest in the next twelve minutes or so. Because I am still single, living in the same
apartment for many, many years, and on a tight budget until I receive proceeds
from the sale of my new book, it’s possible I could have felt very dejected by
this “big” birthday. But I had my
book. And my book is my baby. My family.
My creation. It “completes” me. And yet, I produced it, so, “I complete me”. Sorry, Tom Cruise.
This is the very stuff that I write about. Loneliness has been my cross to bear. It’s also produced my greatest gift,
self-sufficiency and inner peace. I lost
my parents early in life and I’ve wanted a family to fill those holes ever
since. I believed I would feel better
“when…” When I was married. When I was successful. When I had a beautiful home. More money.
Sound familiar? This is the game
we all play. We believe relief comes from
the product. Relief is ours for the
having right now if we decide that we are
okay, whether or not we get what we want. That doesn’t mean to stop going for what you
want, but you don’t have to attach your well-being to its procuring. Make it a want, not a need. There’s a huge difference between the
two.
You can separate the feeling (happy) from the event (getting
what you want), and herein lies our great power as Human Beings. Once you realize that you can be happy
whether or not you have what you want, you’re in the cat-bird seat. Then you’re free. That’s
enlightenment. You live in this world
but not of it. I’m not saying its
easy. I’m saying its possible. And the reward is great. The reward is liberation.
I am happy, grateful, self-contained and I have “completed
myself” without a husband, kids, success, all the accoutrement. And yet I will still yell out to spirit (yes,
even yesterday) “Where’s my goddamned husband?!
How many more goddamned hoops do I have to jump through?” Listen, I’ve come this far, I can make it a
few more days, weeks, months. If it’s
years, so be it. And maybe I’ll never
get married, move, have kids, get rich. It’s
important to look that possibility in the face, too. If that’s the case, can I still be
happy? The answer is yes. How do I know? Because I’m happy now. When I yell at God (she and I are tight) she
knows I’m doing it for theatrical effect.
I’m just having a little karmic temper tantrum. I am
human, after all. And there is no shame
in that. No shame at all.
This was a very long-winded way of saying that I am incredibly
proud of Raving Violet, which means,
I am very proud of myself. No husband, child
or house could give me the satisfaction of what this book gives me. It represents an act of power. It is the result of ACTION, of bold action
over the course of time that ultimately produced beautiful results. If/when I enjoy the relationship I’ve long
waited for, it will produce other, beautiful fruits and blooms. But am I ever proud of myself? Yes, I am!
It was my pain and experience solo on the road of my life that enabled me to create this product. This vision of Raving Violet-ness.
Life conspired to create the perfect circumstances for my
product to emerge. Just like a coal mine
produces diamonds (wait a minute, diamond mines produce diamonds, but you get
my point, right?) Pressure over time
coupled with endurance and persistence produces diamonds. Irritation (sand in the oyster) produces
pearls. If we stop bitching and get just
the smallest bit philosophical, the rewards
are great, indeed. There’s no other way
you can get to the finish line. You have
to run the race.
For
someone so vital, do you find the editing and revisions tedious? Or does it
make you thrive?
Love it. As I’ve become a
better writer, I find it a delightful process of refinement, of focused
attention. Like baking a cake. First, the foundations, ingredients, labor,
mixing, heat, and time. Editing is frosting the cake. It’s still a job, but you’re kind of home
free by the time you get there. Unless you’re
making one of those crazy-ass cakes on a TV show!
For
such a diversified person, what other goals or accomplishments do you hope to
achieve in the future?
I would like to help make the world a happier place. I believe we do it person by person. So, as I continue to heal, improve, get
happier and healthier, I shine my light on the next guy, whether through my
words, my smile, or simply by being a happy person on this planet. When you think of how misery spreads like a
toxin, consider the antidote: Your
Joy. Happiness Heals. Joy is Sacred. Don’t Postpone Joy. These are my commandments.
If you become a happier person, a more loving and patient
parent, child, friend, employee, boss or sibling, you increase the light and
love on this planet. You increase your
Spiritual Light Quotient. And it’s
contagious. Love is contagious. Happiness is contagious. Happy people are loving people. The best thing you can do to help the world
is to become happier yourself. Like when
you’re “in love”, you love everyone, right?
You’re nicer to everyone because you see the world through Love’s eyes
(which are God’s eyes) because you are in that state of “love.”
I suspect I’ll teach someday.
I led guided meditation/psychic development class for years. Because of my experience as a performer, my
social skills, and my HUMOR, I have a natural ease with people. I’m also intensely private, and this is where
writing comes in. I like to be alone. I like
quiet. My partner will have to be a
self-contained man who also likes to be alone at times.
I will continue to write, and yes, teach. I will teach the stuff I’m yakking about
today with you! It’s the stuff that
dreams are made of. God is in the
details. God is in Us.
Thank you for this beautiful opportunity to share my heart and
mind with you and your readers. Blessings
to all. Remember, You Are the Blessing. We are
all God’s Ambassadors on this planet.
It’s an important job. ©2013
Raving
Violet is available in print and e-book from Amazon, Barnes &
Noble, and Black Opal Books. E-book from
SmashWords, KOBO, and AllRomance.com. ravingvioletvalerie.blogspot.com
I'd like to personally thank Valerie for being an exceptionally brilliant guest on my blog, and I highly agree that God is not only with us, but in us!! I wish Valerie great success in every aspect of her future endeavors!!!Guest Author: Valerie Beth GilbertGuest: Valerie Beth Gilberthttp://triberr.com/members/