Wednesday, February 5, 2020

#IWSG @TheIWSG #WritingCommunity #writer



Join Alex J. Cavanaugh and a multitude of writer's in this monthly hop to help support one another!

Purpose: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all 

Let’s rock the neurotic writing world!




Writer's are neurotic. We struggle with insecurities all the time. If a writer says any different, I'd be stunned.

Writing is hard


It's unfortunate that after reading certain posts I turn into an insecure mess. For instance, Stephen King stating 'it should take a writer 3 months, a season, to complete a first draft'. Or, when I see a writer publishing a book every couple months. It amazes me. I can barely get my imagination to crank out 1 halfway decent book a year. And then I see all these newbie authors with their debut novels that hit the NYT Best Sellers Lists. I'm extremely happy for them. And, I believe they must have substantial clout to push them up that ladder. Also, I am envious. As a writer, you can deny it, but who wouldn't want that famed acclaim? 


Since I'm a pantser, this is how I begin my first draft....



In my personal, day to day life, I do not have any support in regards to my writing. However, I have gained support from my daughter who has begun who own writing career. She completed and edited her first book, which I believe is pretty awesome. She is in the process of constructing a query. I've been encouraging her, giving her my support, and I am thrilled to have someone to discuss writing techniques. She's enthusiastic, and at this point, I'm kind of a downer telling her to grow a thick skin of armor.


My ups and downs are wearing me thin. What kind of month are you having?



78 comments:

  1. That's cool your daughter is also writing and querying.
    I'm a slow writer as well. My latest work took three years to draft.
    Thanks for co-hosting today!

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  2. I love that your daughter is a writer as well! Writing and publishing is definitely not for the faint of heart. There are many ups and downs. I try to tell myself not to compare myself with others, but it isn't always easy.

    Thanks for co-hosting!

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  3. Thanks for co-hosting. That’s awesome you can share writing with your daughter now.

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  4. Let's be real (speaking as writer who is in the same boat as you!), some of those insta-hits have a bit of luck. The right story at the right time. Look at Witcher- that book came before Game of Thrones, inspired Game of Thrones, but never hit it big until after GoT.

    There is also access to resources to consider. I once listened to a podcast about this writer's overnight success- she had friends in the industry, spent several thousands of her own dollars on her launch, bought ads and basically self-funded her career kick-starter.

    Then there are books that are just fresh, clever, and amazing. But then, you read their "overnight" success stories and they spent years writing that book.

    Also, you and me, we're both guilty of putting everything ahead of our writing- kids, houses, husbands. That's not likely to change because it's part of who we are. But we need to quit kicking ourselves as writers and realize that we're doing the best we can at a pace that works for us.

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    1. So true, Elizabeth!!! Family is forever first!!! Thank you, I need this!

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  5. How wonderful to share writing with your daughter, even when you know she'll have to experience the inevitable ups & downs. It's a tough world, that's for sure, but I guess the reason we keep on keeping on is because we love it.

    Thanks for co-hosting :)

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  6. I so feel your frustration about those mega-hits out of nowhere. I strive to be nice and believe they all worked in the trenches as we did and suffered for our craft but sometimes it's hard to stay encouraged while plodding along. Glad you've found your fellow muse so close to home. I have a critique group that keeps me honest in my goals. Thanks for co-hosting, Cathrina, and for being so honest.

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  7. After not having success with querying my second novel, I've been spinning my wheels, letting family stuff take over my life, and wondering what to do about writing and publishing. For now, I'm working on the third novel and not thinking about publishing. I've realized that querying and writing together do not work for me.

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  8. I hear you, Cathrina. It's not easy when you start comparing yourself to others. I have one for you. I've been working on my WIP (Book #4) since 2006. The ending is elusive. It used to take me 3 months to write a first draft and 2 years to finish. I wish! Hey--thanks for co-hosting.

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  9. I'm a slow writer for sure. I have thought of you as a fast one! You have so many great books out in the world already. I'm sorry you are having more downs than ups but I think it's safe to say all of us in this group can relate. *hugs*
    So cool about your daughter - best of luck to her!!

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    1. Thank you Julie! And looking forward to your new release!!

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  10. The start a sentence quote, yep, me too. Most of them, actually. That's what makes writing fun. That may or may not have needed air quotes depending on the mood of the day.

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  11. I think "ups and downs" are a big part of what we do. I'm in your slow camp, Cathrina. I can't rush and I panic when I have to, so then I get no writing done. Great post and thanks for co-hosting today.

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  12. Love the clip from The Office! Made me smile.

    Hang in there! And thank you for co-hosting today.

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  13. Ups and downs are a part of a writer's life, hang in there. This month I hope to revise one of my manuscripts.

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  14. How cool that your daughter is joining you on your writing journey. I'm a slow writer like you, trying to increase my productivity. Much coffee is involved. So much coffee.

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  15. I was amazed when I read that in Stephen King's book. But every writer is different. We should write a book however long it takes us. Not how long it takes others.

    You know...I think you do amazing. I see all of the awards you get and I often feel insecure. And you are a best-selling author, too. I'm not. Many of us aren't. We're all on different journeys and will have different outcomes.

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  16. I have the same reaction to those speedy writers. How the H*** do they do it? I hope for 1/yr... Congrats to your daughter for getting things going!

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  17. That's great you have your daughter to talk writing with. Don't feel bad about warning her about getting thick skin. We all had to, and she'll appreciate you not sugar coating the difficult parts of writing.

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  18. My mother threw that "Danielle Steele churned out three new books last year" to highlight my lack of progress. Pfffft - "begone, and take your flying monkeys with you," I replied, in not exactly those same words. And that Stephen King quote is a bunch of crap. It took him a year to write Carrie and five more to get it published. And it was not an immediate hit, either.

    And on that cheerful note, thanks for co-hosting today!

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  19. You have a partner in writing, which is awesome to keep you both motivated and moving. Write for yourself, let the rest follow. :)

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  20. I am slow writer. All that fast completion intimidates me too and makes me question myself. Happy IWSG!

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  21. I'm sorry you are feeling kind of down with the whole writing bit, but I think it's awesome that you and your daughter share the same hobby! How cool is that?!?!

    I've heard that sometimes the best thing to do is to keep striving one sentence at a time. Don't compare yourself to others or other writers. Your time will come.

    With Love,
    Mandy

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  22. I can't whip out a book in three months either. Well, I could. I believe anyone can. But then you need another year for revising it into something that makes sense. :-)

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  23. Hi,
    I am not quite sure yet. February has just started.
    However, I am moving forward and that is good.
    Thank you so much for co-hosting and all the best with your writing.

    Shalom aleichem,
    Pat G @ EverythingMustChange

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  24. Thick skin? There are writers, I think, who charge ahead with the belief their work will be viewed with great acclaim and pay no attention to anything else. Honestly, I think that's the way to success, and a happy life. Blessings

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  25. Yeah, having a thick skin is a good attribute for a writer. However, no matter how much we tell ourselves that our skin is now as thick as an elephant's, I don't think it is true for any of us. It still hurts, when your stories don't get recognition, when nobody reads them, after you put your heart out there. And 3 months for a first draft? I don't think so. Maybe Stephen King can do it, but I can't.
    Thanks for co-hosting this month.

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  26. Ahh these gifs are the best I've seen today. Yay for a fellow pantser! Happy IWSG Day, and thanks for co-hosting!

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  27. Woot for your daughter! That's exciting! She was probably inspired to write because of you. :) And I don't think being a realist is being a downer. It's clear that you're encouraging her while not setting up false expectations. And I think it's completely natural to be envious of another's success. I know I am. Dude, if I could put out a book in 3 months... Yeah, that's not going to happen, not when it's taken me 6 years to finish my current WIP.

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  28. Well, at least you have that much. I know I'm in the same state of mind. A bit dark. More gloomy than my usual self. Only defence is to ride it out by moving forward.

    Keep writing. It doesn't have to go far. Tomorrow the words may look better than they do today. :-)

    Anna from elements of emaginette

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  29. The key is turning disadvantages into advantages. I particularly like starting a sentence and having no idea where it's going:)

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  30. I have a secret that might make you feel a little better. While I may have released two books within three months of each other, the first one was written year ago (I'd shelved it because I was stupid), the second book was mostly written two years ago (which I then had about six or eight months to whip into shape and finish). The third book's first draft was written during last year's NaNo so technically, I have another three months to get it into shape, but it's been sitting in my mind for three months already. So it might look like I'm writing fast, but I'm so not. I hope that helps :)

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  31. Thanks for co-hosting this month, Cathrina! How fun that you and your daughter are both writers! I try not to compare myself with others, but I admit that sometimes I get down when I see how others are progressing. King is a genius in his own class, but he works hard at his craft every day. Happy writing in February.

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  32. I feel every bit of this post. I'm also a pantser, so a first draft in 3 months is NOT going to happen. If I get it done in 3 YEARS, that'll be a feat. Thanks for sharing and co-hosting!

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  33. I know these feelings for sure! I tell myself that I'd be faster if I could go full time, and I hope it's true. We'll find out when I get there, I guess! @samanthabwriter from
    Balancing Act

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  34. It's amazing that your daughter is writing, too. What fun. About that thick skin... We build it up, one rejection at a time. Thanks for co-hosting this month.

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  35. It can be hard not to be jealous or envious, but I figure as long as we're also happy for those achieving success, and we use that envy to push us forward, it's all good.

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  36. Thanks for co-hosting this month.
    I think all the "success" we see in others, isn't always as great as it seems. I know one NYTimes bestselling author who earned the title by appearing in an anthology with other more prominant writers. That author sells well because their work is really good, but has never hit that list, yet, with one of their solo works. Whether we are bestsellers or not, there is always something to be insecure about. Hopefully, getting on a list isn't the reason we write. I have to constantly remind myself not to compare my writing career to other writers.
    It's cool that you and your daughter are now experiencing the writing journey together.
    Best of luck.

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  37. Along any journey there are times when you have get out and kick the tires, take in a sunset. Reflecting on accomplishments always makes the destination seem closer, more attainable.
    And when the last sign of support was a hundred miles ago, it's good to know there are groups like IWSG - Thanks for co-hosting!

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  38. I so hear you, Cathrina! I know a lot of (IWSG) authors who do crank out at least one book a year and it totally amazes me. How can anyone accomplish that and have a life as well?

    My problem of taking forever to finish my first book, a memoir (going on five years), is that I live and travel in a camper van and this lifestyle requires a lot of time and energy. And, of course I'm not retired, so I still have to work and actually make money. Plus, we have a high energy dog and... and... and... :-)

    Thank you for co-hosting and I think you're doing really well creating a book a year, even if it's only "half-decent"!!

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  39. Thanks for co-hosting this month!

    That amazes me too. What is their secret? And what is Stephen King basing his ‘three month to write a first draft’? Not on slow writers like me. Us.

    It’s great how your daughter is starting her own writing career. My youngest started showing interest in writing his own autobiography months ago. Don’t know what happened with it.

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  40. How awesome your daughter is a writer too! I have writer friends that write that fast and I am in awe. I'm that pantser you described above. =P

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  41. Thank you for co-hosting this month!

    There are some writers who can write and publish a book at least once a year, and they're not full-time writers. It leaves me speechless! How on earth do they manage that?
    It's cool that you and your daughter now get to share the world of writing.

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  42. Hi Cathrina,

    I know EXACTLY how you feel. I have been at it for over a decade, and I still haven't had my real break. I am a firm believer when the time is right it will happen. You have had and are having a VERY SUCCESSFUL writing career! We all LOVE your writing and you have had won several awards, so don't feel as though you are not there... you are a true success. You learned your craft over many years and your writing is rich and fulfilling.

    I am still finishing up my MS from two years ago. With me, life always seems to get in my way and stops me from my creativity. I wish I could write a new book a year. Over ten years I have only completed two books and the third is almost finished (4-5 chapters to go!) I am hoping and praying this will be my breakthrough novel. Thankfully I have platform and marketing help with this book, since it is a non-fiction work about life of a friend of mine, who was raised by an "INSANE MOTHER," who did everything and anything she wanted even during a time when women were suppressed by a male dominant society...

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